Esther Perel

And now let’s jump into episode 1851 of The School of Greatness!

Some Questions I Ask:

• What are the core reasons or the core things you see over and over that either end or make a relationship challenging to be in?
• Where does sex play in all this and desire?
• How do we navigate this if we’re gonna choose one partner and be with them until, you know, we’re both gone? How do we navigate the challenge of keeping the desire continuously?
• So how do you experience love and desire at the same time?
• What are some of those incentive systems that you’ve seen over time that really work or are effective for long-term relationships?
• Can we talk about, you know, what marriage was about early, you know, when it started? Do you know the history of marriage and how it’s evolved and where it’s at now?
• How has your work and the constant conversation you’re in about this work supported or not supported your relationship with your husband?
• What’s the ideal relationship moving forward?
• What’s your thoughts on divorce?
• How should we navigate this moving forward, this concept of monogamy?
• How do you know when it’s the person you can make a life with?
• If someone’s looking to get into find a partner, a long-term partner, committed relationship or marriage, what’s one piece of advice you would say to go enter into that relationship?

In this episode, you will learn:

• Discover why caretaking is one of the most powerful anti-aphrodisiacs in long-term relationships and what to do instead
• Understand why committed sex must be premeditated and how waiting for spontaneity guarantees you’ll stay stuck in the same patterns
• Learn why you don’t find your partner, you choose them, and how this shift in perspective changes everything about dating
• Break through the myth that divorce equals failure and why some 20-year marriages are massive successes even when they end
• Master the difference between people you can love and people you can make a life with, and why confusing the two destroys relationships
• Plus much more…

Show Notes:

Esther’s books:

• Mating in Captivity

• The State of Affairs